My Life Ideas

(21/08/2021) Yesterday, mum told us about a game she played in Onam when she was little. She says she told us about it before when we were younger, but I don't remember. When mum was a little girl, people in her village would play a game called  Nadan Panthu Kali . This is how she described the rules: There are two teams of about 5 players — a throwing team and a catching team. Each round, one person from the throwing team would step up to a pole that is stuck into the ground. On the first throw, the thrower has to, throw the ball in the air, clap his hands once and hit the ball. On the second, they have to do the same, but this time clap twice. On the third, clap three times. On the fourth, they have to hit their butt cheek instead of clapping. And on the final, they have to throw the ball up from under a leg. If they hit the ball past the catchers and out of the court, they win and can go onto the next round. If the catchers catch the ball or hit it behind the pole, then the thr...

I don't remember most of my life in Dhaka. There are pictures of me from then, but I don't really recognize most of it. There was a person that took care of me while I was living there, was called Nacema. I do have this one memory of mum and dad coming in to the flat we lived in. They were smiling while I was lying down. But that seems almost like a dream — in fact, while I was living with grandma later on, I didn't even remember mum and dad's faces. I also remember trying to tie my shoelaces in front of a cupboard before we were leaving the house one time, but I feel like that was one of the last memories of the place. I think I also remember a water fountain of some sort. One thing mum told me later on is that one time while I was there I got really sick and dad got angry at mum and hit her. Apparently I got sick often and mum and dad had to go to extreme lengths — sucking snot out of my nose and using their finger to treat my constipation. I remember mum singing Kava...

When I was in her womb, mum said that my leg was in a weird position which meant that mum had to have a caesarean section. Apparently, the doctor thought that I was going to have trouble walking, but luckily I was fine. When I was born was 53cm tall, a few months after my cousin Mikhail Alex who was born on August 23. Mum and dad said that he was a much bigger baby than I was. Apparently, they had to wrap me up in a cloth to even hold onto me. In the days after giving birth to me, mum took me to her parents house where they had Onam celebrations. Questions: Who was there at the celebration? Most of mums family; her parents Aryachan and Ammachi, her siblings including Reji Aunty. Apparently it was a big celebration with a lot of singing and stuff.

This was something that I definitely remember, not something I was told about: When I was about one and a half (mum said that's how old I was I the time), we, my mum dad and I were travelling on a bus. We were all very hungry and all my parents had with them had with them were some biscuits. At some point in the journey they asked me if I wanted some. I recall that it looked super nice and I wanted to save it for later. Later on in the journey, I asked for it again. Maybe I had fallen asleep for a while and woke up again. But mum and dad said that they ate it. I don't remember this part, but mum and dad said that I was very upset by this and cried quite a bit. The reason this memory stayed with me is that, the reason that I can still remember it, is that at that event changed my outlook on life. I decided then that it wasn't a good idea to wait to have things I wanted. Questions: Where were we going on the bus?